We all have fear of the unknown.
Afraid if we make a change what will happen or fear of what people may think.
It’s completely normal but if we allow our fear to take over and prevent us from doing what we desire, we end up living a life of “What ifs?”
If you want to start your own business, lose some weight, or if you ponder traveling the world one day, those aren’t just far fetched dreams, they become apart of who you are and in order to be a happy and fulfilled person you need to see them through!
I was once a fearful person who always cared about what people thought of me and I was scared to make changes in my life.
I kept putting my dreams off and instead would go to clubs on the weekend to party and drink my face off.
I would be hungover for a couple days and completely demotivated until mid-week.
I would get my energy back by Wednesday and have 2 “good days” of trying to make my ideas happen but then Friday rolled around and I would do the entire ‘party circuit’ all over again.
Like groundhog day, this was a repeat pattern that was getting me nowhere fast.
One morning I woke up very ill (from the night before). I was throwing up and could hardly get out of bed. I had to call my family to let them know I couldn’t make it to my Mom’s birthday (ugh! I felt awful about that).
To make matters worse I didn’t have a cent to my name. I had numerous expensive club dresses and shoes and literally had ZERO dollars.
It was at that moment that I decided enough is enough and I was going to commit to make a change.
I know now why I was doing all the partying. I was afraid of living my dream and being a better person because I was fearful of change and the possible outcome of failure.
Whether you want to lose weight, stop a vice, or make a career change…
…it’s really all the same approach.
I began to plan for what I really wanted from my life.
I faced my fears and I surrounded myself with people that could help me.
These 5 steps is the exact process I followed to help build my business within 6 months of starting, it helped me become a stronger and healthier person (inside and out) and most importantly has lead me to help thousands of women across the world become happy, healthy and fit.
5 Effective Ways To Get What You Want Out Out Of Your Life
1. Write Down What You Want And Be Specific
Don’t over think it just write down what you think about on a regular bases. Do you think about living somewhere warm with palm treas and the ocean breeze? Do you think about running your own fitness business? Do you think about climbing Mount Kilimanjaro? Do you think about losing weight and feeling energized like you used to? Write it down in a journal…exactly how it plays in your head.
2. Create A “Task List”
One little step you accomplish each day. It doesn’t have to be an extravagant list, write down one little task the night before to complete the next day. For example, if you want to start your own business you would want to start off with what type of person do you want to help or what need will you fulfill i.e. I want to own my own business helping prenatal women lose their baby weight.” The next task may be – how will you help them? Complete one step at a time.
3. Create A List Of Objections
Play the devils advocate. Write down the reasons that could come in between you and your goal. Then write down a solution for each objection. For example; A Mom of 3 wants to lose 30 pounds”. Objection – “I don’t have any spare time between my job and balancing my kids schedules”. Solution – “I will find a program that is time efficient and I can do AT HOME to get started on my weight loss journey.” (28 Day Home Workout Challenge) or “I will share my weight loss goal with my husband and parents to see if they are willing to help out with the kids.”
4. Give Yourself A Timeline/Deadline
Don’t be too aggressive but be definitive. If you want to run your own business give yourself a realistic timeline/deadline. Write it on the calendar big in red or have a countdown on your phone so you are always reminded of that date. Your day-to-day “Task List” will get you there 😉
5. Surround Yourself With Like Minded People
Hang around people that are already successful and have big dreams. When you associate with people that inspire you, you will be more likely to reach your own goals and aspirations. This also means you may have to keep a distance with people that could be holding you back or have a negative opinion of what you set out to do”A Lion-ness doesn’t lose sleep over the opinion of sheep”.
Anyway I hope this gives you the nudge you may need to move forward.
Remember, whatever it is that you want out of your life, believe in your power and make it happen.
And if you’re still struggling with your Fitness Goals and are looking for more guidance or direction, fill out my questionnaire and let me know how I can help.
See you on the other side 🙂
~ Coach JVB